E314 | How to Compare Yourself to Others in a Way That's Constructive

How can you keep self comparison from becoming a negative force in our lives? 

We’ve all heard phrases such as “comparison is the thief of joy,” and have been bombarded with negative stories and statistics about social media and its magnification of self comparison.  While we don’t dispute the destructive effect it can have, comparison can also be harnessed for good and boost our self worth.  

Today’s episode will cover the history of self-comparison - the innate human behavior that can help us assess where our current abilities are and motivate us to push further, if properly managed and kept in check.  We’ll cover:

• The science behind self comparison and social learning theory
• 4 types of comparisons
• How our drives affect the way we compare ourselves to others and our past selves
• General tips for how to keep self comparison from turning into self destruction

Referenced Resources:

If you happened to miss the first episode in this series - How To Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down or Stonewalls - give it a listen!  

We can’t fully grasp who we are without understanding what drives and motivates our decisions and behaviors.  Take our quiz and understand more thoroughly another piece in the messy puzzle of self comparison.

It’s natural to want to compare yourself to your past self and others.  If you’d like to receive feedback and be evaluated in real time from a diverse group of like-minded peers, we can’t recommend The Apprenticeship, Speaker School, or Brand Builder live workshops enough! 

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Referenced Material:

One of life’s biggest stressors - Time Management

The envious brain: The neural basis of social comparison

Life Lessons and Leadership From My Mom