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Hosted by best-selling author, speaker and performance coach Brett Bartholomew, the Art of Coaching Podcast is a weekly show aimed at getting to the core of what it takes to change attitudes & behaviors in the weight-room, boardroom and everywhere in between.
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Monday Mar 04, 2024
Monday Mar 04, 2024
“Just stay positive! You’ll figure it out. Stick with it! Keep grinding 💪 Don’t forget to practice gratitude. 🙏”
These are just a few of the commonly used phrases we hear from those who pound the positive leadership drum over, and over, and over again. Though well-intentioned, messages like these perpetuate the myth that a leader should always be positive, putting an immense amount of pressure on people to live up to a heroic ideal. In the real world, we’re all just human, and embracing that is the key to being a more genuine, authentic, and skillful leader.
In today’s episode, we:
- Explain the consequences of forced positivity
- Discuss the purposes of all 6 primary emotions
- Break down how to recognize, manage, and use “negative emotions” to enhance our leadership skills
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There is so much more to leadership than just being positive. Humans are complex and communication is like any skill, it must be understood and practiced. There is no better place to get the knowledge and application you need than at The Apprenticeship. If you’d like to trade mantras for impact, nothing packs a punch like experiential learning with a like-minded group of peers. Words don’t do it justice! Come see us April 20th-21st in Phoenix, AZ!
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E252: Strategies For Combating The Holiday Blues & Getting Out Of A Rut
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Monday Feb 26, 2024
Monday Feb 26, 2024
Have you ever heard someone deliver a captivating message that seemed to use all the right words in just the right way?
Whether it’s in casual conversation, at work pitching a new idea, in front of an audience, or in the way we write, we want our message to seamlessly flow from one point to the next and be easy to understand.
Fluency and articulation are unquestionably important if you want to be persuasive and project confidence and competence. Being able to communicate with precision is a skill that is trainable and is very much at the core of our mission at Art of Coaching. This episode will cover:
- Define verbal fluency and articulation and how they complement each other
- Distinguish between clarity and conciseness
- How to manage disfluencies and when they can actually be helpful
- The neurophysiological component and tips on how to make meaningful improvements
Referenced Resources:
If you want to improve your public speaking or aspire to get in front of an audience someday or even if you’d just like to be more confident in front of a room, Speaker School is the perfect live event for you! Whether you have a message you’ve been burning to get out, or are still in the idea stage, there is no better place to find true progress. Our Early Bird special is still available through April 1st, don’t hesitate on your chance to SAVE UP TO $200!
If you loved the episode but can’t get to Speaker School, we also offer virtual mentoring and will do whatever we can to meet you where you are. Send us a message at info@artofcoaching.com and let's get started!
More dates and events for 2024 are being added, keep up to date and come see us this year at one of our Live Events! We’d love to see you there!
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The previous episode in this series all about Self Comparison
Monday Feb 19, 2024
Monday Feb 19, 2024
How can you keep self comparison from becoming a negative force in our lives?
We’ve all heard phrases such as “comparison is the thief of joy,” and have been bombarded with negative stories and statistics about social media and its magnification of self comparison. While we don’t dispute the destructive effect it can have, comparison can also be harnessed for good and boost our self worth.
Today’s episode will cover the history of self-comparison - the innate human behavior that can help us assess where our current abilities are and motivate us to push further, if properly managed and kept in check. We’ll cover:
- The science behind self comparison and social learning theory
- 4 types of comparisons
- How our drives affect the way we compare ourselves to others and our past selves
- General tips for how to keep self comparison from turning into self destruction
Referenced Resources:
If you happened to miss the first episode in this series - How To Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down or Stonewalls - give it a listen!
We can’t fully grasp who we are without understanding what drives and motivates our decisions and behaviors. Take our quiz and understand more thoroughly another piece in the messy puzzle of self comparison.
It’s natural to want to compare yourself to your past self and others. If you’d like to receive feedback and be evaluated in real time from a diverse group of like-minded peers, we can’t recommend The Apprenticeship, Speaker School, or Brand Builder live workshops enough!
If a group workshop doesn’t really sound like your thing, but you would really like some professional evaluation and feedback, check out our 3 month 1:1 Mentorship Program. Reach out to our team at info@artofcoaching.com to take your next steps!
Our next Apprenticeship workshop is in beautiful Phoenix, AZ, and the Early Bird special is only available until February 20! Don’t miss out on your chance to SAVE $150!
More dates and events for 2024 are being added, keep up to date and come see us this year at one of our Live Events!
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One of life’s biggest stressors - Time Management
Monday Feb 12, 2024
Monday Feb 12, 2024
Have you ever been in a tough conversation with someone who just withdrew or shut down?
Relationships and communication are a lot like an iceberg. There’s often more going on beneath the surface that we can’t see or prepare ourselves for, eventually leading to an unexpected and harmful crash.
Today’s episode will improve your knowledge and understanding of why people shut down AND give you tools to navigate the crash. Tune in for:
- What stonewalling is and key behaviors to look out for
- What we can do as leaders to get out of our own way
- Tips to think outside of the box for unexplored strategies for progress
- Pros and cons to common advice or relationship hacks
Referenced Resources:
We are fully aware of our scope of practice and this podcast is discussing general communication strategies around stonewalling and shutting down. If you are in an abusive relationship we urge you to reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline by phone at 1-800-799-SAFE or online at thehotline.org. If you are listening outside of the US, seek local resources for support.
We often use case studies generated from listener emails, as well as real life scenarios we’ve dealt with through our mentoring program. If you’d like 1-on-1 guidance from our team, reach out to us today at info@artofcoaching.com and let us know you’re interested in our mentoring program. We will let you know what the next steps are from there!
If you are dealing with similar situations like the ones discussed in today’s episode, get guidance, practice, feedback, and PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS at The Apprenticeship. Our next workshop is in beautiful Phoenix, AZ, and the early bird special is only available for 9 more days! Don’t miss out on your chance to SAVE $150!
Keep an eye on all of our Live Workshops for updates on our 2024 schedule!
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Monday Feb 05, 2024
Monday Feb 05, 2024
What strained relationships are you currently facing or have you faced in the past?
As long as other people are involved, strained relationships can exist in any context and often are exasperated at the worst possible times, only to make things exponentially worse. So how are you supposed to deal with them?
Today’s episode gives several examples of strained relationships, and is packed with ways for you to improve the ones you’re looking to reconcile. Tune in to this quick hitter for
- The pertinent questions to ask yourself before having the hard conversation
- Tools to bring clarity and conciseness to your message
- Strategies to get feedback on your communication before the actual interaction
- How these same concepts apply to entrepreneurship, sales, and marketing
This episode was a result of a listener reaching out with a specific issue they were working through. What situations are you in that you’d like to hear another perspective on? We understand the risks you might be facing if you share “classified” information, so don’t worry. We keep it all anonymous in order to protect both you and the other parties involved. That said, I hope this episode will encourage you to share with us! Go to artofcoaching.com/question to contact our team directly.
For a FREE and EASY list of reflection questions and an activity to help you apply this episode to your life, CLICK HERE.
If you’re looking for something a little more stimulating and impactful than a list of reflection questions, check out our Apprenticeship workshop. Communication is something no one will ever perfect, hence the name “The Apprenticeship.” If you’re sick of wasting your time and money on conferences where the return on investment is little to none, come join us for an intimate and interactive workshop, where you’ll not only gain the knowledge and understanding you need to navigate the messy realities of relationships, but more importantly, you’ll get hands on experience working through your specific situation and gain the perspective of the AOC team and other individuals looking to improve themselves as well. You can find our entire 2024 Live Event schedule here, and if you have any questions, schedule a free discovery call! It would be our pleasure to help you find a solution and strategy to reaching your goals.
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Monday Jan 29, 2024
Monday Jan 29, 2024
“The key to leadership is being vulnerable.”
Although this concept has been trending for more than a few years now, there is still plenty of ambiguity around what that actually looks like in the real world. We know this because as a leadership development company, we consistently get questions about it - What do I need to be vulnerable about? How much is too much? When is the best time to share?
Today’s episode answers these questions and several others, to help you become a better leader and teammate through a willingness to share your flaws. A few specifics we address are:
- How the perception of credibility has changed over time
- 3 key features of credibility
- How the vulnerability loop enhances relationships
- “The little things” that contribute to trustworthiness and warmth
Referenced Resources:
Valued: If you’re struggling with feeling under-valued in your current job or position, this episode is just a starting point for ways to influence how you’re perceived by others in the workplace. Our online course Valued covers this topic in more depth, as well as working as a go-to guide for all things finding, solidifying and maximizing the job. This resource will teach you the skills you need to become irreplaceable within your organization.
1:1 Mentoring: For anyone looking for someone to lean on, act as a devil’s advocate, or just run ideas and decisions by, this program is designed to provide the support and accountability you need. We have a wide variety of mentors in many different locations and walks of life available to provide you guidance and training tailored specifically to your needs. Apply for our 1:1 Mentorship Program today, or reach out to us at info@artofcoaching.com, and we’ll get you moving in the right direction!
Monday Jan 22, 2024
Monday Jan 22, 2024
In the pursuit of being a better communicator, leader, coach, teammate, spouse, or friend, it’s easy for us to get caught up in our messaging - that is, WHAT we are saying.
And as ambitious individuals, we dive into the research. With a bit of education, reflection, and feedback, we then realize that it’s not just the words themselves, but also HOW we say them, that matters. Afterall, studies have shown that the actual words said only account for 7% of the perceived meaning!
But even when we take both of these things into consideration, we still seem to have misunderstandings. That’s why today’s episode gives you several new pieces of the context to chew on as you reflect on previous interactions or strategize for upcoming conversations.
Some of the key topics covered in this episode are:
- The questions you need to ask yourself BEFORE you start to strategize your approach
- Specific outlines and examples to use when approaching hard conversations
- How to combat the fear of being taken the wrong way
Related Episodes:
126: 8 Obstacles to Building Buy-In
127: How To Give the Most Effective Feedback
130: How Understanding Drives Helps Build Buy-In
194: How To Become a Better Listener
202: Why Facts & Logic Don’t Change Our Minds
207: How Perception Impacts Communication and Relationships
261: “What Should I Do?” Applying Strategic Thinking to Conflict Resolution
270: How To Build Trust So You Can Do Your Job, Have More Autonomy, & Help More People
FULL DISCLOSURE ALERT: Despite running a company that is largely focused on communication and understanding, power dynamics and human interaction, I fall short a lot. My wife and I have been together for 13+ years. We still get into arguments, we still fight, and I lose my cool sometimes. And for a long time, I felt like that made me a failure and a fraud. And then what I realized is it's exactly what we talked about at Art of Coaching and why our products exist. None of us are ever going to be good enough at communication. It doesn’t matter what or how many degrees or certifications I have, how many books I’ve written, or how many people I’ve mentored along the way. There’s always room for improvement, ESPECIALLY when it comes to my family and loved ones.
If you can relate to this, that's where our work can help. We don't do a bunch of pie in the sky solutions. We're real people who have real flaws just like you, but we take a research backed and experienced based approach to help you improve in those areas that matter most. So if you want to improve as a communicator - whether it's for your job, for your loved ones, or for yourself, check out what we do at artofcoaching.com.
Live Workshops: The Apprenticeship, Speaker School, or Brand Builder
Virtual Community: Mighty Networks
If you have specific questions or experiences you’d like to share, or if there’s any certain topics you’d like to hear us speak on, reach out to us directly at info@artofcoaching.com. Our community (that includes YOU) is the reason we do what we do! We would love to hear from you and provide you with the specific value you’re looking for.
Today’s podcast is brought to you by Momentous. Moving into the new year, we are excited to announce our continued partnership with this loyal and reliable organization! Momentous is our oldest partner, but they are STILL improving their product. If you are looking for the best tasting and cleanest protein out there, look no further. Code: BRETT15 gets you 15% off your first order!
Monday Jan 15, 2024
Monday Jan 15, 2024
If you’re a first time listener to the Art of Coaching podcast, it’s important for you to know that the focus of our work is to provide you with pragmatic solutions to real world problems; to have real conversations about the messy realities of life and leadership that often get swept under the rug; to avoid simply giving short term band aid solutions, and to equip you with the tools you need to address the root causes of the problems you’re working to overcome.
That’s why we are excited to bring the work of today’s guest - the psychology of distraction - directly to you. Nir Eyal is the author of two bestsellers. His first book, Hooked, is a Silicon Valley must-read and emerged from a class he taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. He's just published a follow-up book, Indistractable, which is what we cover in our conversation today.
Indistractable was recently named one of the Best Business and Leadership Books of the Year, according to Amazon and one of the Best Personal Development Books of the Year by Audible. It also won the 2019 Outstanding Works of Literature (OWL) Award in the Big Idea category.
Because of the actionable frameworks and research-backed strategies for fighting distraction, we knew Nir’s work would provide monumental value to our ambitious audience. Specifically, Nir dives into:
- The difference between root cause and proximate cause and how this affects your productivity
- Different types of distraction and how to identify them
- 4 steps to becoming “indistractable”
- Examples on how to use these 4 steps in your personal and professional life
Nir’s Work:
Books: Indistractable & Hooked
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Upcoming Apprenticeship Workshops:
The Apprenticeship - Become more socially agile with our live Leadership Training Workshop.
When we say “leadership training,” we are not referring to cheesy corny trust-falls, motivational speak, or anything of the sorts. We are talking about the things that people say they wish they would have known earlier in their career and life - how to navigate difficult people and conversations, power dynamics, negotiations, and implement change.
If you deal with people-problems at all, if you’re in a leadership position or want to be in a leadership role, if you want LESS DRAMA - you need to get to this event! Check out our entire 2024 live event schedule for the best date and location for you!
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Monday Jan 08, 2024
Monday Jan 08, 2024
There are a lot of negative stereotypes surrounding “sales.” Everything from the “sleazy car salesman” to the “lifestyle lush” to the “credibility crackpot” - there’s no shortage of these! So it makes sense why so many of us have some level of discomfort when we think about selling something.
But the truth is that “sales” is an every-day part of our lives - whether it’s at work, at home, or in our social circles, selling is unavoidable.
So to help ease any insecurities you might have about the topic, and/or to help you become more purposeful in your sales approach and strategy, today’s episode covers the Do’s, Don’ts and Core Principles behind the sales process. Specifically,
- The essential information you need to tailor your message appropriately
- Why so many of us have insecurities about the idea of sales
- How to keep your messaging consistent and build trust with your audience
- Critical questions and considerations for your communication strategy
Referenced Resources:
Brand Builder (Entrepreneur Essentials Workshop)
Facilitator Course - Email us to find out more at info@artofcoaching.com
The Apprenticeship - our live Leadership and Communication Training Workshop. *Take advantage of early bird, military/ first responder, and group discounts!
When we say “leadership training,” we are not referring to cheesy corny trust-falls, motivational speak, or anything of the sorts. We are talking about the things that people say they wish they would have known earlier in their career and life - how to navigate difficult people and conversations, power dynamics, negotiations, and implement change.
If you deal with people-problems at all, if you’re in a leadership position or want to be in a leadership role, if you want LESS DRAMA - you need to get to this event! Check out our entire 2024 live event schedule for the best date and location for you!
Referenced Podcast Episodes:
E266: How To Find Your Voice & Get Out Of Your Head
E204: Amira Mansour: Starting Your Own Coaching Business & Managing The Voice In Your Head
E188: Ethan Kross: Chatter - The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters, and How To Harness It
E112: Finding & Developing Your Leadership Voice
If there are other topics you’d like us to dive into in our podcast, please let us know! We want to hear from you and value your questions and feedback immensely! You can reach us directly at info@artofcoaching.com or submit your questions HERE.
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Moving into the new year, we are excited to announce our continued partnership with Momentous! Momentous is our oldest partner, but they are STILL improving their product. If you are looking for the best tasting and cleanest protein out there, look no further. Code: BRETT15 gets you 15% off your first order!
Monday Jan 01, 2024
Monday Jan 01, 2024
The brands we wear, the foods we eat, the people we associate with, the way we act in public… These are all ways we consciously (and often subconsciously) control others’ perception of us.
But we don’t have just one “authentic self” to portray. We are like actors playing many roles, in a constant state of flux depending on our context.
Awareness of this outward expression, or as we like to say, impression management, can help us understand how our public image is tied to our ability to reach desired goals.
On today’s episode we’ll discuss:
- The reasons for our curated self-presentation
- The 6 types we exhibit most and why they work
- How to refine our current impression management strategies
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